There is another side to all of this which I would like to talk about. This is the side of the story is from the producers. Now I haven't produced movies or videos or done photo shoots, however I am a writer. I want to explain first how the process is of entrapment goes as well as the people you look for.
First off, Men. You are easy, let's be honest. You see a pair of breasts no matter how covered are gonna catch your eye and you're gonna think about them. The only challenge is to get you to rationalize seeing them more and more uncovered and past that in sex acts. So, You see a picture of a girl with a link, She's not dressed well, she is set in a provocative pose. Out of curiousity you click on it and bam she's a little less dressed and so on. There you go it's set in your mind and you're gonna have a hell of a time gettting rid of that picture. So out of curiousity you go back and it gets farther and farther. That's the general way to get a dude. Another way is bam show him an attractive naked women in a sexy pose. Another is doing the same but making it a joke which was how I was. In any case it's easy to get a guy hooked and the process of choosing is simple. Every heterosexual dude will go for it.
Now women, obviously this is more what I was going for when I wrote. A lot of you may say "women? Porn? Really?" Simply said yes. As of recently the amount of women and men that are addicted to pornography is almost equal. It started with girls looking at what their boyfriends were looking at and talking about and then they would get hooked. Nowadays there is an actual category of porn now dedicated to women. For them it is all about the emotional side of it and the anticipation of things. It's slow, beautiful, called art. And honestly I'd almost agree with them because the way they orchestrate things is more, beautiful. That's how it's done. This is why when husbands or boyfriends are told if they want to have sex that night start the morning doing the dishes and cooking breakfast. The emotional side of things turns them on. When you do make love, have sex, whatever they aren't like men. Turn the switch, bam you're done. Literally. For women you cradle, take your time, ease into things. Generally there are exceptions. In any case the reason I am going into this is because I know the others side and what they look for and how they use that.
When you are looking for a girl to use for one of these things, you look for insecurity or a huge self image. Flattery or bending their insecurity to their advantage. That's literally how they get them to do vids. A porn producer wrote, paraphrasing, he would invite these girls to his place, showing off what could be theirs with the money they could earn, but then end it with something like "Oh I can't allow this, your parents would never agree." Of course they would turn to that. This is just one way. I myself would talk to the girl, I'd bring up that I could write and show them a little piece.
"We were on a date. The ocean lapped at the shore, crashed far away down the beach. The sun set in the horizon. Brilliant orange and violet shone from it's light, dripping into the ocean like paint onto a painters pallet. Sun warmed sand cradled our bodies," Etc I wont continue.
Then I'd give just a tease on, just enough to turn them on but not go too far. Of course they'd ask another, and another, taking them farther and farther until they were fully under my control in their passion. It was a drug. When they were high they would do anything, and begged me for more. A girl I used this on is now a sex, drug, and alcohol addict. I understand that most of these choices were hers, however I know I did influence it and I will pay for the damage I have done.
Now why do I say this? Because I want to warn you, both men and women, that this is serious and it's easy. That's why I say there is nothing you can do to keep people from being at least introduced to whatever level they are because it's easy and it's everywhere.
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad you pointed out that more women are being trapped in this. It's not just men/boys. It's women too! No one is safe from this. Also, pointing out that with most women it is through words/emotions. People need to know that pornography is anything (music, books, movies, pictures, etc.) that create that sexual desire in you.
ReplyDeleteBrennan, I really appreciate your taking the time to educate us even in your pain or because of your pain.
ReplyDeleteI've been through it, hopefully so someone doesn't have too
ReplyDeleteBrennan, I want you to know how much I appreciate hearing about things from your point of view. It is so helpful to be able to read about your fight in a transparent way. You are helping me to understand this addiction better and I really appreciate your honesty. Thank you for being brave enough to share your thoughts.
ReplyDeletethank you and I'm glad it's helping you to understand this issue
DeleteActually, the most common way women get hooked on pornography is through reading. We are far more susceptible to the written word than we are through images. Images tend to be too brutal. Grown women who feel like they are just fine, righteousness wise will be hooked on "romance" novels (the word romance is used incorrectly here) that are explicit. I have known good RS sisters who admit that they hide these novels when their husbands are around. There's a reason for that. So women REALLY need to heed the spirit and put a book down at the first sign of this, just like you men need to keep those triggering images out of your realm of acceptable vision.
ReplyDeleteI think i knew that somewhere, in any case from my use of it it's obvious to me just how much it does affect and I agree with romance comment.
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